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Favorite EIFS related videos
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Mr Rogers in his fascination, love and devotion singing with his friend “It’s You I Like.”
Just for the enjoyment of Jim being himself.
For the Joy
Touched by this song and video, to be held in Self, in ok-ness, in love, in beauty.
As Joseph Campbell finds common myth themes acrosss all cultures and through time immemorial, we find our inner IFS journeys reflected as the external, as the world, as our connection to humanity. The deeper we know our own system, the deeper we know all humany. Do you also find Joseph Campbell helpful?
Describing how the Self quality of Connectedness can be an effective remedy. Excerpt from “Everything you think you know about addiction is wrong Johann Hari”
Just a glimpse from an old friend Robert Gonzales celebrating our human needs from a Nonviolent Communication perspective.
Favorite Transpersonal Art
I encountered Matisse’s Joy of Life in college and up until a year ago it was my primary visual symbol of embodied flow, Self-realization, innocence and beauty. Then, a year ago, Seurat’s pointillism somehow invited me “into the painting” experiencing an immersion of being inseparable from this beauty of our intrinsic nature–that I and everything was of the same. Alex Grey’s work join these two as my artistic inspirations depicting Self-realization. What are yours?
The Joy of Life by Matisse
In this, what do you find? Flow, joy, connectedness?
Sunday on La Grande Jatte by Seurat It’s all just dots. Do you sense that the painting, the dots, are just all of being, light or color and same sameness?
Foreground and Background
AN EXPLORATION
In EffortlessIFS, we explore the relationship of the ever-present you/Self background with the parts foreground for healing, unburdening and Self-realization. To get an idea of the direction of the process/play, first explore your perception of the iconic Vase & Faces image as a metaphor for Self & our Inner Parts
First, consider the iconic image.
Is there awareness of the vase? Is there awareness of the faces? Are you aware of the vase as background or foreground? And the faces, foreground or background? Which is louder or more prominent, the vase or the faces? Can the prominence shift? Can you perceive the vase and faces simultaneously? Are the vase and faces both of the canvas or screen?
In EffortlessIFS, we bring similar attention to every arising part of our internal family system and to the Self from which they arise.
Take some time to go inward with the following questions.
- Is there awareness of you/Self (ever-present being, presence, fulfillment)?
- Is there awareness of parts?
- Are you aware of you/Self as background?
- Are you aware of your parts as foreground?
- Which is louder or more prominent: you/Self or your parts?
- Can you see or know you/Self as background and your parts as foreground simultaneously in one view, field or imagined photo?
- What is the relationship between you/Self and your parts?
- Can you rest as you/Self?
- Do your parts experience the ever-presence of you/Self?
- What is your parts’ experience of you/Self? (love?connectedness? presence? acceptance?)
- Can you glimpse that your parts are made of you/Self or that you/Self expresses through your parts?
Favorite EIFS Supportive Quotes
Which is your favorite? Additional suggestions?
- Happiness belongs to the supremely lazy person for whom even blinking is too much trouble. ~ Ashtavakra Gita
- I am he as you are he as you are me and we are all together. ~ The Beatles
- Awakening is moving your inner center of gravity from your protective parts to your magnificent essence. ~Richard Schwartz
- Healing is not becoming the best version of yourself. Healing is letting the worst version of yourself be loved. ~Kobe Campbell
- For most gulls it was not flying that matters, but eating. For this gull, though, it was not eating that mattered, but flight. ~ Jonathan Livingston Seagull
- There is a voice that doesn’t use words. Listen. ~Rumi
- The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek. ~ Joseph Campbell
- We have fallen into a place where everything is music. Just one glimpse of the inner sun and walls of desperation tumble down. ~ song Just One Glimpse by Peter Makena
- Suffering is necessary until you realize it is unnecessary. ~Eckhart Tolle
- Go within. Hear the story of sunrise from the sun itself. ~Rumi
- The moment you completely accept your non-peace, your non-peace becomes transmuted into peace. Anything you accept fully will get you there, will take you into peace. This is the miracle of surrender.” ~Eckhart Tolle
- Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it. ~ Ferris Bueller
- “Love your enemy”, I obeyed and loved myself. ~ Khalil Gibran
- Seeking love keeps you from the awareness that you already have it—that you are it. ~ Byron Katie
- Love is the answer in the inner world, just as it is in the outer world. Listening to, embracing, and loving parts allows them to heal and transform as much as it does for people. In Buddhist terms, IFS helps people become bodhisattvas of their psyches. ~ Richard Schwartz
- Suffering is a loving (though painful) reminder from the depths of our Being: “You are looking in the wrong place!” ~ Rupert Spira
- Let yourself be drawn by the strong pull of what you really love. ~ Rumi
- You are what’s left when all is lost. ~ Jeff Foster
- Life is looking at herself in the mirror, pulling different expressions, waiting for you to recognize yourself. When you see yourself in every expression then you’ll learn to love the appearance and the truth. ~ infinitycomfort
- Just one glimpse in your eyes and I’m forever falling into the silence inside. ~ song In Your Eyes by Peter Makena
- Stop acting so small. You are the universe in ecstatic motion. Set your life on fire. Seek those who fan your flames. ~ Rumi
- Nothing out there will ever satisfy you except temporarily and superficially, but you may need to experience many disillusionments before you realize that truth. ~ Eckhart Tolle
- Beauty is eternity gazing at itself in a mirror. ~ Kahlil Gibran
- Imagine this: Whatever has weighted on you suddenly no longer weighs. All that has ever troubled you is now just a feature of the landscape, like a tree, a passing cloud. Your life is entirely fulfilled — without your having to do anything to fulfill it. Never again will you be afraid, desperate, lonely. Whatever comes you way, this causeless joy will hold. Imagine it. ~Jan Frazier
- All weather comes and goes, and no storm ever hurt the sky. ~ Loch Kelly
Favorite EIFS Poetry
Additional helpful poetry suggestions?
The Guest House
by Rumi
This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.
This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.
Rumi’s Field
by Rumi
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing,
there is a field. I’ll meet you there.
When the soul lies down in that grass,
the world is too full to talk about.
Ideas, language, even the phrase “each other”
doesn’t make any sense.
The breeze at dawn has secrets to tell you.
Don’t go back to sleep.
You must ask for what you really want.
Don’t go back to sleep.
People are going back and forth across the doorsill
where the two worlds touch.
The door is round and open.
Don’t go back to sleep.
Please Call Me by My True Names
by Thich Nhat Hanh
Don’t say that I will depart tomorrow —
even today I am still arriving.
Look deeply: every second I am arriving
to be a bud on a Spring branch,
to be a tiny bird, with still-fragile wings,
learning to sing in my new nest,
to be a caterpillar in the heart of a flower,
to be a jewel hiding itself in a stone.
I still arrive, in order to laugh and to cry,
to fear and to hope.
The rhythm of my heart is the birth and death
of all that is alive.
I am the mayfly metamorphosing
on the surface of the river.
And I am the bird
that swoops down to swallow the mayfly.
I am the frog swimming happily
in the clear water of a pond.
And I am the grass-snake
that silently feeds itself on the frog.
I am the child in Uganda, all skin and bones,
my legs as thin as bamboo sticks.
And I am the arms merchant,
selling deadly weapons to Uganda.
I am the twelve-year-old girl,
refugee on a small boat,
who throws herself into the ocean
after being raped by a sea pirate.
And I am the pirate,
my heart not yet capable
of seeing and loving.
I am a member of the politburo,
with plenty of power in my hands.
And I am the man who has to pay
his “debt of blood” to my people
dying slowly in a forced-labor camp.
My joy is like Spring, so warm
it makes flowers bloom all over the Earth.
My pain is like a river of tears,
so vast it fills the four oceans.
Please call me by my true names,
so I can hear all my cries and my laughter at once,
so I can see that my joy and pain are one.
Please call me by my true names,
so I can wake up,
and so the door of my heart
can be left open,
the door of compassion.
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MUSIC FOR AWAKENING TO ALL IS SELF
I Am by Kirtana
Before, beyond the sense of pleasure or of pain, I am; Of everything I see, beyond disguise reflecting me, I am; I cannot find a boundary in consciousness, I am; Not subject to states of health or points of view, without needs, I am; Where does awareness begin and does it end, always been, I am; Awaken to find that truth was always known, there is always home.
Why the Sufi's Whirl by Kirtana
Be still and know who you are; To know the sound of one hand clapping; Do you hear it too?; One heart singing; Willing to stop and see what is still and free; Willing to know who you are.
Always Home by Steven Walters
This dance we do in time, awaken to that truth was always known, there is always home; labyrinth of illusion, find in our minds what our hearts have always known, there is always home; dreaming, waking, it’s worth coming home; each face reflecting one truth; each voice needed for the song, there is always home.
Be -- from movie Jonathan Livingston Seagull
Jonathan leaves the flock to discover and integrate the transition from doing to being. In this song, replace the lyric “Him” with “You”. Flocks can be helpful in conventional levels of development but often we must leave to continue.
Favorite Healing & Self-Realization Music
Below are two developing playlist. The first one “EIFS Dance Party Songs” are often selected from for our Parts Dance Partie . The second list “Everybody Hurts” is for advanced healing. Please share your additional song suggestions via email.
General Dance Party Playlist
Songs that are often used in our dance parties–updating, available soon.
Everybody Hurts Playlist:
Songs for evoking and intimacy with exiles. Please handle with care as these can be challenging and perhaps better to not take this dive alone.